FAQ

I’ve studied this illness since 1999, and during this time I’ve run across several questions people have about MPD/DID in general, so I’ll post my take on them. I can only speak for me and my system, but I hope they give you some insight.

This is a work in progress; polite questions are always welcome.

  • So this is like schizophrenia, right?

MPD/DID and schizophrenia have nothing to do with each other. But that’s a very common misconception.

  • (this is one I anticipate) So you’re saying [insert family member] did [insert bad thing] to you?

Are you kidding me? I wouldn’t say anything of the sort on a public Internet blog. I have wayyyy too many lawyers in the family.

  • What about false memories?

Have you ever seen the Bourne movie series? Jason Bourne had some interesting memories which he interpreted as being brainwashed against his will; as it turns out, he had asked for the opportunity to serve his country this way.

The point being that I’ve found that memory and interpretation of the memory are not necessarily the same thing. There are several kinds of things that fall into the “memory” category:

  1. actual memories (complete and fragmented)
  2. flashbacks
  3. nightmares
  4. inklings (where you feel like something might have happened, without an actual memory)
  5. information imparted to you by an alter without you having a memory of it. Remember that alters may have an agenda for telling you a certain thing, or spinning it in a certain way. It may be 100% truthful, it may be partially true, it may be a misinterpretation, or it may be a flat out lie.
  6. information told to you by another (external) person (sibling, parent, etc.) without you having a memory of it. This includes people telling you that you told them thus and so. See #5 above.

Each of these has its own strengths and weaknesses, and each has to be taken as a clue to the truth, rather than the entire truth.

That said, I think groups like the False Memory Syndrome Foundation are perfect places for perpetrators to hide and get people to back them up when a survivor confronts them. Not that everyone in such groups fall into that category, but it pays to examine who benefits by a brutalized person being told that what they remember isn’t true.

  • How many of you are there?

Um, just one.

Oh, you mean inside?? 😉

Well, that has changed over the years; right now there are 6 of us, 4 who interact with the outside world to any extent. Before I got therapy there were a whole lot more in here (like over 100). But we’ve done a lot of merging over the years. More on that later.

  • (this I get asked a lot) Is something wrong? You seem unhappy/stressed today.

I wrote a whole post just to answer that. The short answer is yes, but don’t ask me to explain what, because I often don’t know.

  • I have MPD/DID and feel like shit. What can I do to feel better?

Here’s a list of stuff I do, but in the end, you have to figure out what makes you feel better.

My take on it is that no one is going to come save you from your life and what was done to you.  Make it your goal in life to get well, though, and you will find the help you need.

  • Is it okay if I link to a post?

As long as you actually link and don’t take stuff without attributing it.  Karma is a bitch.

  • Will you research stuff for me?

I actually had someone ask me that. Sure, my rates are $40/hour.

  • I’ve read that some multiples have a name for their system. Do you?

We call ourselves Diamond. Interpret that how you will.

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