Posted by: ourlifewithmpd | June 5, 2013

Helping someone

I used to help people out of obligation, because my upbringing was very full of that. I had to do certain things because you were obligated to or else it would make the abuser look bad. And you didn’t want to do that.

So it was only very recently that I have been able to move out of that. Here’s how:

Think of what you have in abundance.

Think of how you can help someone else with it.

Do that. Do it anonymously if you can.

The reason I say anonymously is because it takes away the feeling that the other person might feel obligated to do something back, or the fear they might not like it, or the fear they might judge you, or any other bad feelings surrounding this. Plus, it’s really fun to do something great for someone else and know no one knows about it but you. It’s like a good fun secret!

Here are some ideas (if you can afford to, no self-harm please):

http://giveawayadollaraday.com/ — give away a dollar a day

If you have a fruit tree or garden, put a basket of fruit, veggies or flowers on a random person’s doorstep or donate them to a homeless shelter

Bring your pile of aluminum cans to the recycling center and tell them to give the money to the next person that shows up

Pay for the person’s meal behind you in the drive-through line

http://www.freecycle.org/ — these are local groups where people give things they don’t want to people who need them. Find a wanted post with things you want to give away, use a throw away email address, get their information then leave the items on the doorstep

http://www.kiva.org — give a loan to someone on the other side of the world. Not exactly anonymous, but it’s close.

If you find a coupon for an item you don’t use, stick it next to the item in the grocery store when no one is watching.

I’m sure you can think of many more. 🙂

Did you help someone? How did it feel? If you like, you can write your thoughts below.

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